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My Boyfriend is a Lying, Cheating, Porn Addict!
Quote28.03.2012 02:490 people like thisLike
 

So my boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years. We have had our share of problems in the past and broken up and gotten back together many times. Well, back in September, I found out that he had been talking to girls behind my back and flirting with them, asking about their breasts and saying he wished he could kiss them, etc... He wouldn't fess up to it and LIED to me. We got in a huge fight and I told him to knock it off or I was going to leave. He said he would and that everything would be different, and it was. Well, now today I found out six months later that he has THOUSANDS of pornography sites on his laptop and sits on porn sites for HOURS EVERY DAY. This is something we have agreed in the past is not appropriate. In addition, he was hiding it from me. When I asked him if he was looking at it and asked him to be honest, he looked me right in the eyes and said he wasn't. I saw his pupils dilate so I knew he was lying. We went through his history together and there it was. THOUSANDS of porn sites, pictures, etc... Then, I ALSO found out that he had this account on some website with probably like 100 different girls in his inbox talking about his penis and their breasts and being turned on by each other and all this stuff. SO he cheated on me too. He has been lying to me for the past 6 months. He sure is damn good at it because I never suspected a thing. I feel like an IDIOT because he had me fooled. So what do I do? Dump him? He's all I have. Do I dump him or should we try to work it out? ADVICE PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Quote28.03.2012 11:350 people like thisLike
 

Hi PrincessAriel,

 

The porn thing is such a fine line. I mean, all guys and a lot of girls look at porn. But it's the sheer number of sites that seems a little over the top. Obviously, the biggest concern is with him actually speaking to other women - which can be considered virtual cheating. Do you know if he has cheated on you in real life? I'd imagine that due to the sheer amount of lying he has done, you can't trust his answer to any of the questions.

 

Here's the deal - someone who needs a great amount of porn & attention from other women is not going to make a good partner or husband for anyone. A little porn is NORMAL, but it sounds as if this is out of control. If he wants to get help, then that's a good indicator. But if you think he's going to keep lying about it and hiding it and talking to other women, you need to seriously consider your future.

 

Is this guy REALLY all you have? Is having a boyfriend really worth all the humiliation and betrayal you feel right now?

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Quote29.03.2012 14:270 people like thisLike
 

Sorry to hear that.  Pretty sick if you ask me.  He clearly has some issues he needs to work out.  No one with a clear mind can be that dirty and sick. He must of had some issues as a kid and its coming out now.   You shouldn't of had to be a part of it and be lied to,  he needs to get help.  Honest I learned if the best thing for a relationship.  I wasn't always honest with my ex and it was part of what cost me in the end.   Everyone deserves someone who is there for them, supports them and is honest.  Your better off!

Quote30.03.2012 15:350 people like thisLike
 

You have to think to yourself that this boyfriend of two years constantly lies. Habitual liars don't make a good partner because you will always have suspicions about them. A little pornography doesn't hurt but if he's making it a daily ritual for hours he needs help. Seems like he's obsessed with the thought of sex but he needs to make the decision that he needs help. Him talking to other girls like that is not ok and if all this is happening in just 2 years about you two breaking up on and off and with the lying as well....i think it's time to set your foot in the right direction.

Quote10.08.2012 16:220 people like thisLike
 

What bothers me here is the fact that he has been searching out and talking to other women. I can understand why he lied to you about the porn. Maybe he realizes that he is a bit of a pervert and is embarrassed by it. I say move on to someone who has no issues, or at least issues you can live with.

Quote11.08.2012 23:020 people like thisLike
 
Thanks everyone, but I ended the relationship back in the middle of May. I feel better about myself for it and I know there's something better out there for me! I deserve so much more!
Quote12.08.2012 11:200 people like thisLike
 

Thanks so much for the update! That's really good to hear. I'm glad that you're feeling better about yourself...and yes...you do deserve so much better!!

 

 

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